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The Right Thing to Do

"Dr. Fred, we just got a call from Myriam at Global Exchange. They're flying a very special Iraqi woman to the States for a speaking tour and she's got a nasty toothache. Any way you could squeeze her in?"

With that question from our office manager, Kathie, we began a journey into inter-cultural understanding, and our own humanity.

At 7:30 the next morning (2 and a half hours earlier than our usual start time) we met that "very special Iraqi woman" - Nermin Al-Mufti. Nermin is a prolific journalist, speaking and writing for the last 20 years about issues ranging from corruption, to the environment, to the role of women in Muslim society, to nutrition. She is also a mother, raising a son since infancy on her own in a country where, because of international sanctions, she was unable to buy vitamins for her child.

When Nermin first arrived, she was not unlike many people on their maiden voyage to a dentist in a strange country, or even people on a maiden voyage to a dentist in their own country. She was a tad apprehensive, not to mention in pain. Her round, dark eyes spoke volumes, as did her hands, which moved in rhythm with her remarkably good English. We listened as she told of us of the throbbing in the upper right portion of her mouth.

As Nermin settled into our comfy dental chair, and was covered with a warm blanket, she began to breathe with a bit more ease. Soon, her fear was replaced with relaxation, then comfort and finally, during a difficult procedure where Dr. Fred surgically removed three metal posts from her molar, sleep. When it was over, Nermin wanted everyone to see the twisted metal, which looked more like old paper clips than a dental material, and which had aggravated her delicate tissues. Nermin wanted everyone to know that Dr. Fred and Chantal, our dental assistant, were "so gentle, so wonderful."

The metal wire technique of root canal ("silver points") went out of fashion in North America about 50 years ago, once the propensity of the technique to yield infection was better understood. Unfortunately for Nermin, and who knows how many others, it is still used in Iraq.

After her dental work was over, Nermin talked with us of her life, her observations, and her experience under the prior political regime in Iraq. She also told us how difficult it is to live in Baghdad right now, how dangerous, uncertain and chaotic a place it is. She spoke of concern for her son, who is an engineering student at Baghdad University. She also rattled off statistics about infant mortality in Iraq and told us how Iraq had become the planet's third worst place to live in terms of education, medical care and other basic human services, surpassed only by Bangladesh and Eritrea. She hugged us. We hugged her back.

After the hugs, there were tears. While we had treated Nermin to a few hours of dental bliss in Berkeley, she had given us a much more profound gift: an opportunity to remember that in giving to others we connect with what it means to be alive. We cried with her for her country, we cried with her as Mothers, we cried with her as fellow human beings.

For more information about the organization which sponsored Nermin's U.S. speaking tour, please visit Global Exchange's web site at: www.globalexchange.org. This article appears on our web site with Nermin Al-Mufti's permission.


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